Why can i not ejaculate with a female but i can make myself ejaculate i have never been able to ejaculate with a female when in sexaul intercoures but i can jack off and cum

You : You are likely dealing with performance anxiety. This usually stems from fear of sexual performance and in your case fear that you can not ejaculate. The anxiety and fear usually increases after each experience making it even more of an issue. I suggest you speak with a mental health professional regarding this issue so that you may address the underlying cause. Best of luck.

Different sensation?: Maybe your mind / body are telling you to wait for that one special woman you'll be with for the rest of your life. If so, it would be a big plus. When you meet her, she'll be patient & it'll work out. Some men use a tight grip on themselves and are not so well prepared for the most subtle stimulation that a woman provides, or for the variety they may encounter. Try varying your grip when alone.