My boyfriend can't be soft & gentle when having sex. it's very painful for me. i bleed every time. anything he can do so he can take it slow?

Can't or Won't: I think he would quickly learn to be gentler if having sex depended on that. DO NOT allow yourself to be harmed by another person - especially by your boyfriend !!

Wrong guy: Please forgive my frankness. You're eighteen. You've talked with him about this and it hasn't changed; you've brought the question here and gotten good advice from one of my peers. There may be a physical incompatibility, or he may need a particular approach to maintain his excitement. For both of your sakes, consider moving on but remaining on friendly terms.