We are virgin couple recently married. when i try to penetrate i lose erection due to fear of pain, any suggestions how to maintain erection.

Performance anxiety: "outercourse is more important than intercourse"- try avoiding intercourse and concentrate on prolonged genital touching and manipulation until you are both secreting fluids, Take your time: 20-30 min,, use music, massage and most of all imagination and communication- this is not a race, it s an exploraration on sensulaity and sexuality- 2 weeks of only touching, almost to orgasm-enjoy.