Is it my fault they my husband abuses me, if i behave better will it stop?

Absolutely not!: Spousal abuse does not have anything to do with you, but instead his need for power and psych pathology. You do not deserve the abuse and it is not your fault. Also, it will most likely not stop. I implore you to seek help with counseling where you will be able to get out of an abusive relationship. You deserve better, and dont forget that. http://womenshealth.gov/violence-against-women.