How can i tell my husband that i just found out i have herpes?

Tell him: He's going to find out eventually and the longer you delay, the worse it will be. It might be that you had it from before you got met, or even that he is unknowingly a carrier -- your physician may be able to help. The one exception is if there is a real risk of domestic violence. In this case, plan your exit with some people in your community -- it's time.