My right ear is sore to souch i flushed it with warm water and it felt awsome but was still sore to touch after i cany put in headphones and sleeping ?

Could be: an outer ear canal infection. Have it looked at as antibiotics may help tremendously. Definitely avoid falling asleep with ear buds in place. Potential alternatives could include deeper infection such as wisdom tooth abscess, ear wax impaction, dermatitis (eczema or contact allergy to an ear ring for example), inner ear problem or some other more rare diagnoses.