Why does just fingering hurt? im a virgin and when my boyfriend fingers me with just one finger slowly, it hurts even though im fully wet

Finger pain: If you're a virgin, that suggests that your hymen should be intact (a fibrous tissue bank across the mid vagina. If so, then when he is fingering you, he is probably pushing against it and stretching it, which can be painful. Normally this membrane breaks the first time you have sex, and is not a problem after that. Until then, it may be uncomfortable. Have him not put his finger in as deep.

Difficult: The nervous system is very variable. There are times when you can't feel enough and times when touch is over amplified. Sexual contact is especially sensitive to mood and excitement. It helps to increase your urge to be touched by working up to it, teasing in areas around the genitals like the stomach and inside the legs. It's all about backing off and moving forward. You are willing to talk. Good.