How to refuse sexual activity?

What's the setting?: You have used a female screen name. If you're married, the law allows you to refuse some or most of the time, but if your marriage is to be successful, you need to keep your husband satisfied here. If you don't, probably a lot more will fall apart. Explore different things that the two of you can do together, and try to have sex often even if you're not in the mood, for your marriage.

The Right to Choose: The how questions can be tricky. Your question is very interesting but to get specific advise you may need to share more with us. We do not know your gender, or the specifics you are asking about. But in all cases, married or not, you have the right to say No to any sexual advances. You have this right whether you are male or female. If you are not safe then the first "how' is how to be safe.