Sick of feeling sorry for myself because of my terrible luck with hair. what do you suggest?

Go low-maintenance: I sport a flat-top, about as low-maintenance a hair style as you can imagine, and one that says, "I work hard, I play had, and I've got myself under control." A flattop looks even better on a woman. Find yourself a short hair style that you like and that's right for your hair type, and embrace it. Here's a secret -- most people really don't care at all whether you have "wonderful hair." Cheers.