What does borderline personality disorder feel like to the person who has it?

Emptineess. Glen close in fatal attraction gives a great portrayal of the extreme of this disorder.
Borderline PD. To the person who has it, the world is very frightening. People cannot be trusted; abandonment feels imminent. There are huge swings of emotion in relationships -- extreme idealization or extreme devaluation & rage. When the important other disappoints, borderline pd can't remember there was ever anything good about him/her; abandonment depression results. There's intense self-loathing & pain.
A possible scenario. The world is black or the world is white - there is no gray. I constantly fear I will lose the people that matter to me. One day I love you & the next I hate you. I can feel so empty that I might burn or cut myself just to feel something. My moods shift a lot. I get so mad it becomes rage. If you stress me I may just zone or I realize that you are out to get me. I am promiscuous. This sucks!
Borderline PD. Can have chronic depressive symptoms, mood swing one minute happy one minute depressed, chronic feeling of emptiness, disengaged from family and self mutolation.
Bad things just happ. People with bpd are often unhappy, bored or confused or angry and feel this is because somehow other people always end up mistreating them. They rarely see their own role in creating their misery. The world sees to be filled with unreliable people who trick them into trusting. Its an awful way to live.

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What is a person with borderline personality disorder like? Like what are the symptoms and signs?

Emotional. Most individuals with bpd are characterized by unstable and intense emotional reactions and relationships. They may express chronic feelings of emptiness.

How does a person with borderline personality disorder cope with living alone?

Treatment. Treatment of bpd involves both psychotherapy and medication, there is no single treatment modality that helps the person and there are no magic cures. Please seek help, current advances in treatment are amazingly helpful good luck and feel better.

What is the simplest way to define a person with borderline personality disorder?

DBT Can Help. The simplest way to define a person with borderline personality disorder is as "a person." A personality disorder is a hardship for that person and causes distress. No one is simple. There's a great deal of complexity to a person, and the development of any personality disorder is due to many factors. People with bpd benefit from respect and love like anyone else. A therapy called dbt can help.
Stably unstable. A person with borderline personality disorder shows a pervasive pattern of unstable relationships, mood, and identity throughout adult life.
Borderline. Impulsive, can't tolerate abandonment, identity disturbance, distorted self-image, repeated self harm, intense anger, chronic feelings of emptiness, dissociation or paranoea for brief periods.
Borderline. Intense fear of abandonment, being manipulative, impulsivity, a tendency to think of people and things in all good or all bad terms, self mutilating behaviors, drug and alcohol abuse, sexual impulsivity, a profoundly disturb sense of self, and extreme emotional volatility.
A human being. The simplest way is to say a human being with problems in living and relating, and like all humans, in need of understanding, connectedness, and joy in life. A person with strengths, and weakness, with parts that work well, and parts not so strong, like all the other humans on the planet. A person with potential, and a person with dreams, and perhaps a story that bears telling.

Do you think you can treat a person who might have borderline personality disorder?

Yes. Borderline personality disorder is treatable. Several different varieties of psychotherapy are effective. All are long term treatments.
Borderline. Our practice has therapists experienced in working with borderlines thru dialectical behavior therapy.

It happens that a person with undiagnosed and ignored 'borderline personality disorder' be a danger to others?

Not to be flippant, In a sense - under the "wrong" conditions - anyone can be a danger to others. Until diagnosed, there is no borderline pd, only a difficult, volatile person and compared to an easy going, calm person - yes. If things don't go well for and with them, they can act out in ways that are dangerous. A sad but true thing is, even w/ therapy, many are still not easy to deal with. Don't diagnose. Be safe!

Can a person go back and forth from being schizoid to borderline personality disorder? Are these two related and is it possible to be displaying both?

Unlikely. One is flamboyant and filled with interpersonal drama. The other is silent and withdrawn. If you are seeing both, personally I would consider a dissociative disorder as a highly likely explanation.
You can have both. They are not mutually exclusive. It is entirely possible for a person to have both conditions. The behavior and symptoms associated with borderline may appear only under distress (e.g., when the person fears rejection or abandonment). When things are stable, the person may then look schizoid. These are both complicated diagnoses-- a professional evaluation is in order.
Traits. You may not have a diagnosable personality disorder. You can, however, exhibit traits from one or more personality disorders even if full criteria is not met for a diagnosis. You may also have a concurrent mental illness and a personality disorder. Many possibilities, only your psychologist or psychiatrist can positively diagnose you.

Borderline personality disorder thanks for reading and any help you can provide. I have a family member who I'm fairly certain is bpd. I believe she's had similar problems stemming from childhood. How can we express to this person how her actions make p

Part. Part of the challenge with having borderline personality is an inability of the patient to manage their emotional world. Often they will be controlling in order to give them some sense of their internal chaos. I would recommend the book, "stop walking on eggshells" by randy kreger to help give you some perspective and tools to deal with your BP family member.
Great. Great question and incredibly difficult situation. I believe that there is a lot of good information available on the web from reliable sites (such as mayo clinic) on this topic. The description of the family member's behavior certainly is one that could raise the issue of the diagnosis but only a mental health professional trained particularly to deal with such presentations can reach that conclusion. There is greater interest and understanding about bpd in recent years and especially the contribution of both nature and nurture. Treatment options are increasing as are appropriate medications to help with the more severe symptoms. You will find a lot of that discussed on good web sites. I would also particularly recommend looking at dr. Marsha lenahan's dialectic behavior therapy model for helpful hints on understanding and approaching the family member. Being able to accept their behavior on the one hand and also being able to point out that such reactions may not be the most optimal way of dealing with intense emotions and could lead to job and relationship losses as well as alienating relatives who would like to be of help. There is a way of learning better techniques for expressing these feelings that would help create allies and gain support that otherwise leads to adversarial relationships and the very feelings of being all alone that are dreaded. Patience will be tried, calm persistence is needed.