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Why on earth do I want my boyfriend to choke and hit me during sex? Why do I like it so much?

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Dr. Jason Berman
Clinical Psychology

In brief: Past trauma

Often, I have worked with women who want to be beaten up or attacked physically by their male partner because they have experienced this kind of treatment in their earlier adult life and/or childhood.
Please consider seeing a psychologist or counselor to talk through what is behind your desire to be hurt during sex. You can find someone close to you here: locator.Apa.Org.

In brief: Past trauma

Often, I have worked with women who want to be beaten up or attacked physically by their male partner because they have experienced this kind of treatment in their earlier adult life and/or childhood.
Please consider seeing a psychologist or counselor to talk through what is behind your desire to be hurt during sex. You can find someone close to you here: locator.Apa.Org.
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