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What can parents do if it is their kid who is the bully? The loner? The silent one who holds things in?

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Dr. JUDY WASHINGTON
Family Medicine
14 doctors agree

In brief: Get help

You need to get your child help.
Find through your school or personal physician a good counselor who has experience in dealing with this problem. It is very important that you do not delay.

In brief: Get help

You need to get your child help.
Find through your school or personal physician a good counselor who has experience in dealing with this problem. It is very important that you do not delay.
Dr. JUDY WASHINGTON
Dr. JUDY WASHINGTON
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Dr. Marc Wager
Pediatrics
2 doctors agree

In brief: Talk to your kid!

The most important thing a parent can do is to communicate with the child: find out what's bothering him/her, see if it's time to talk to their physician, see a therapist, discuss with school personnel.

In brief: Talk to your kid!

The most important thing a parent can do is to communicate with the child: find out what's bothering him/her, see if it's time to talk to their physician, see a therapist, discuss with school personnel.
Dr. Marc Wager
Dr. Marc Wager
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Dr. Thomas Riney
the bully actually has a worse long-term psychiatric outcome than the victim of bullying, and the family should seek low cost counceling
Dr. Ed Friedlander
Pathology
1 doctor agrees

In brief: Control a bully

School bullies regularly get away with doing things to other children for which they would do jail time if they were adults, causing great harm. Despite the nice talk about "getting them counseling", many (not all) that i've known comes from homes with poor direction and either too little or inappropriately harsh discipline.
Your pastor or some other wise lay person might be a good guide. Peace.

In brief: Control a bully

School bullies regularly get away with doing things to other children for which they would do jail time if they were adults, causing great harm. Despite the nice talk about "getting them counseling", many (not all) that i've known comes from homes with poor direction and either too little or inappropriately harsh discipline.
Your pastor or some other wise lay person might be a good guide. Peace.
Dr. Ed Friedlander
Dr. Ed Friedlander
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Dr. Deepak Patel
Most bullies have a self esteem issue. Believe it or not, they are softies 'inside'. Problem is, they cannot express their feelings appropriately. Worse yet, they intimidate others while feeling good about themselves. It works like a charm. For them, atleast. But not all bullies are like that. Some use it in 'self defense'. I say self defense because you mentioned the word 'loner, the silent one who holds things in'. Here, they bottle things up until the blow up happens. And people go, 'whats his problem?' Eventually Depression sets in, and it can get very serious. There is no short answer to fix this. Best Wishes.
Dr. Andrew Berry
Clinical Psychology

In brief: Insecurity

Most of the time, children who bully are insecure, and are not future sociopaths.
Get the child to open up about the insecurity which usually involves damaged interpersonal relationships, or, find a reputable child psychotherapist for your child to speak with.

In brief: Insecurity

Most of the time, children who bully are insecure, and are not future sociopaths.
Get the child to open up about the insecurity which usually involves damaged interpersonal relationships, or, find a reputable child psychotherapist for your child to speak with.
Dr. Andrew Berry
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Dr. Leonard Lado
Psychiatry

In brief: Child behavior

The key is early detection before any behavioral problems presents.
Children with behavior problems were more likely to be male and live in households with lower income and parental education. Also children with behavior problems entered kindergarten with lower speech and language, motor, play, and school skills. The latter was found by montes et al 2012. Knowning this then we can focus on prevent.

In brief: Child behavior

The key is early detection before any behavioral problems presents.
Children with behavior problems were more likely to be male and live in households with lower income and parental education. Also children with behavior problems entered kindergarten with lower speech and language, motor, play, and school skills. The latter was found by montes et al 2012. Knowning this then we can focus on prevent.
Dr. Leonard Lado
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