Are there any programs in u.S. To help young adult aspbergers patients master skills for healthy living? Health, socialization, self care, work, etc?

Yes. Most all very serious, long standing or non-curable, genetic, even uncommon conditions have support groups and links for help. Are we not blessed and cursed with the age of the internet and technology ? Start with aspergersyndrome.Org.
Improve health. Please read "healing the new childhood epidemics" by dr. Bock and then seek out an anti-aging physician by going to www.A4m.Com and using physician directory to find one near you to help evaluate and treat and very likely really improve the function of the child with autism, aspergers, adhd, etc!