12 doctors weighed in:
My husband and I have been married for 1 yr, we have a 4 month old. We fight & hes not the father I thought he would be. Do we need counseling?
12 doctors weighed in

Dr. K. Olson
Psychiatry
6 doctors agree
In brief: Not a birthright
Much of parenting is learned - and not necessarily from childhood.
There are many good books and parent effectiveness training classes can help. Nobody says we somehow magically know how to parent. This should not be misconstrued as a character defect but simply an opportunity or challenge to learn.

In brief: Not a birthright
Much of parenting is learned - and not necessarily from childhood.
There are many good books and parent effectiveness training classes can help. Nobody says we somehow magically know how to parent. This should not be misconstrued as a character defect but simply an opportunity or challenge to learn.
Dr. K. Olson
Dr. K. Olson
Thank
Dr. Hallie Robbins
Physical & Rehabilitation Medicine
5 doctors agree
In brief: Yes
Parenting and marriage can be a strain together and seprately, especially when a baby comes along so soon.
Work on communication skills, be patient and understanding, and seek counseling -- especially as you ask if you should! books and workshops by the gottman institute are very helpful ways to learn positive approaches to keeping relationships healthy. Good luck.

In brief: Yes
Parenting and marriage can be a strain together and seprately, especially when a baby comes along so soon.
Work on communication skills, be patient and understanding, and seek counseling -- especially as you ask if you should! books and workshops by the gottman institute are very helpful ways to learn positive approaches to keeping relationships healthy. Good luck.
Dr. Hallie Robbins
Dr. Hallie Robbins
Thank
1 comment
Dr. Martin Raff
Outstanding response. Premarital and preparental expectations in the absence of experience is often detrimental to relationships since the perceived "realities" tend to differ with their prior exposures. It often takes a therapist to alter thinking patterns since in these situations many people are not capable of "hearing" what their partner is actually saying.
Dr. Michael Opsahl
Fertility Medicine
2 doctors agree
In brief: Need Counseling?
A new marriage and a new baby are a potent combination of stressful issues in any marriage.
I am not a psychologist but i would suggest getting help anytime you cannot resolve difference alone. Your marriage and family are precious commodities and worth help from family, friends, minister, or mental health professional. Give each other a break, you may be dealing with stress more than anything.

In brief: Need Counseling?
A new marriage and a new baby are a potent combination of stressful issues in any marriage.
I am not a psychologist but i would suggest getting help anytime you cannot resolve difference alone. Your marriage and family are precious commodities and worth help from family, friends, minister, or mental health professional. Give each other a break, you may be dealing with stress more than anything.
Dr. Michael Opsahl
Dr. Michael Opsahl
Thank
1 comment
Dr. Michael Opsahl
You are welcome and best wishes on a happy resolution.
Get help from a real doctor now
Dr. Cindy Juster
Board Certified, Pediatrics
32 years in practice
2M people helped
Continue
108,000 doctors available
Read more answers from doctors