Don't let her engage
You in an argument, ever. While you're both calm, tell her what behaviors you want ; the consequences for not doing so.
When she tests you, "walk, don't talk" her to time-out as many times as she gets out + 1, then set the timer for 3 minutes. Ignore all protests during the "escalation" period that precedes "extinction" of any behavior. Read "little people" by dr. Ed christopherson (on amazon).