I am on mucsle relaxers and I have soft stools but I feel like im pushing with all my strenghth is that normal?

Constipation/diarrhe. You state you take muscle relaxants. Have you also taken any pain medications? Both are common causes, particularly if taken for a long time, of chronic severe constipation backing up through your whole colon. What happens when you are fully backed up, is that new food in liquid form leaks around the mass of stool and seems like diarrhea/soft stools even though the problem is constipation.