I have a huge stomah hernia huge very heavy like I have 4 babies inside its my 5th surgery im260 pounds noone wants to help I can hardly carry it I al?

Must loose weight. Hernias that form after surgery (called incisional hernias) can be challenging to fix. At 260 you weight is probably too high and that risks further unsuccessful attempts at repair. Don't just suffer, go to a weight loss center, start counseling, a diet, some low impact exercise, and loose weight. Your doc may change his mind about repair if you fix the weight problem first.