Have several autonomic disorders as results of lupus. Often hard to manage. Work full-time which takes all my energy. Try to explain to others, they don't understand, tell others, things get construed. How to not let what others think bother me? Isolating

Counseling. It sounds like a good counseling relationship might be quite helpful. Having a chronic disease is hard, you deserve support . Get a referral from your PCP or payment source. See if your PCP , specialist or local hospital might know of a support group for individual with chronic disease or more generic stress.