There's mental health issues in family. They didn't learn coping skills. After years of me learning w. therapy/hard work, I'm finding that I've maybe got more than learned behavior. What does the discovery process look like. Just see my primary?

Congratulations. on working on your own coping skills. You MAY be being discouraged by the pathology that still exists in your family system. Stay rooted in what you have learned and exercise compassion w/family. See clinical psychologist for psych testing if you would like to know more about your personality. Peace and good health.
Look inside. You can, through self hypnosis or deep meditation,, explore your subconscious mind and identify the cyclical triggers that interfere with your conscious desires. Check out the book Male Intuitive Mastery by Dr. Tim Hall https://www.amazon.com/MALE-INTUITIVE-MASTERY-Visions-Destined-ebook/dp/B0165T5ZP4.