My top eyelids puffy due to oil gland buildup. Can I put a cream on top eyelid to soften or mayb reduce inflammatory look?

Sounds allergic. What you describe sounds more like a allergic reaction to something you put on your eyelids. I would avoid all make up and try to find out what is causing this. You can use a steroid used for eyelids but this should be prescribed for you after you have been seen by an MD as you cannot just put any steroid on the eyelid. Duct inflammation another possible cause. See MD for proper diagnosis.