I used my chapstick yesterday & woke up with a coldsore this morning. I just realized my toddler got a hold of my chapstick & ate/possibly put it on. Could she catch herpes this way? I am always very careful and never share anything or kiss on the lips, no

It is possible. but less likely. Your toddler is more likely to contract the coldsore virus when you kiss her (even if it is not on the lips). The HSV-1 virus is spread by direct contact: most often lip to lip or lip to skin, but it can live a short amount of time in the saliva on utensils, toothbrushes, lip balm etc. You can be infective before the outbreak, but most infective when there are blisters visible.