I've just had a fetal demise and delivered the baby yesterday, had an epidural and then an epidural to fix a spinal headache. I'm having extricating neck pain now and I'm wondering if it would be ok to take a norco (hydrocodne 5) with flexiril?

Probably but... My sincerest condolences for your loss. The post-epidural blood patch, while very effective for spinal headache, can add to your risk of post-pregnancy depression. Examine your motives for wanting to take the combination of meds carefully. Emotional pain is expected and appropriate at this time. Be safe, talk about your emotions with a trusted person. Thanks for trusting in HealthTap.