Is it possible that something is trying to break and is causing me vulovdynia cause it's trying to reheal it's self? It burns. Then I see blood.

Exam needed. If you are having burning on the vagina and bleeding then an examination is warranted to determine what might be going on.
Get a gynae exam. There are lots of possible causes for your symptoms. For example, a small vulva skin split or tear near the entrance to the vagina is a common cause of seeing bright red blood, esp after sex. But it could be other things too. You need to be examined to sort out what's going on & what treatment you need. .