What can I do about hormones and hot flashes would love to be sexual again?

Hormone therapy help. Estrogen helps with hot flashes and testosterone can help libido. Your physician will need to review your medical history and physical exam to help you decide if you're a candidate. www.biotemedical.com has some information as well as the North American Menopause Society website.
OB/GYN. See if family doctor in OB Joanne who can help you manage the symptoms and get you back on the enjoyment of sex again.
Menopause. You may be able to have hormonal therapy which should help to relieve the situation.