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My 4year old is afraid and refuses to go poop in the toilet. Why is this so?

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Dr. James Ferguson
Pediatrics
2 doctors agree

In brief: Depends

Did s/he go previously & have a toilet back up scare? Has s/he never tried? As dr kim states, break it up into useful stages + rewards.
Entering the bathroom stage1/ disrobing 2/ sitting 3/ sitting 1min 4/ making poo stage 5.A 4yo can tell you what they value, so rewards should be focused on their wants & easy to deliver. Some are slower than others but be patient and supportive. New is stressful.

In brief: Depends

Did s/he go previously & have a toilet back up scare? Has s/he never tried? As dr kim states, break it up into useful stages + rewards.
Entering the bathroom stage1/ disrobing 2/ sitting 3/ sitting 1min 4/ making poo stage 5.A 4yo can tell you what they value, so rewards should be focused on their wants & easy to deliver. Some are slower than others but be patient and supportive. New is stressful.
Dr. James Ferguson
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Dr. PHILLIP KIM
Family Medicine
2 doctors agree

In brief: Toilet anxiety?

Transitioning from diaper to toilet can be somewhat a stressful response for the child as this is a new experience which needs gradual conditioning.
Sort of like having training wheels. So try to build by getting a child's potty trainer.

In brief: Toilet anxiety?

Transitioning from diaper to toilet can be somewhat a stressful response for the child as this is a new experience which needs gradual conditioning.
Sort of like having training wheels. So try to build by getting a child's potty trainer.
Dr. PHILLIP KIM
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