Learning to drive and everytime im terrified of getting in an accident how to overcome extreme fear of driving and deal with the anxiety without meds?

CBT. Hello. I suggest you work with a clinical psychologist who is familiar with cognitive behavioral therapy to help overcome this fear. Take care.
VRT for Phobias. Phobias and anxieties respond well to Virtual Reality Therapy(VRT). VRT is exposure therapy in a safe environment. The research suggests VRT is 90% effective. Seek out a therapist who uses VRT in your area. You can find providers through www.psious.com, www.limbix.com, or www.virtuallybetter.com.