Is there any way to make losing virginity less painful and more pleasureable?

The right man. Thanks very much for asking this question. Hopefully you live in a country where you can choose who you marry / go out with -- i can imagine few things worse than being sold to a man you do not love. My hope for you is that you'll wait until you truly know that this is the right time and this is the man you want to love you for the rest of your life. Even if it hurts some, it will be fantastic.