Was just told glasses, contacts, and surgery won't help for my lazy eye. Is this true?

Yes and no. Surgery, glasses or contacts will not help improve vision in an eye that has not developed properly due to malalignment. This is called strabismic amblyopia. Surgery can improve the alignment of a "lazy"eye, but not its vision.
Yes and no. If you are referring to lining the eyes up so they point in the same direction, that might be possible with a skilled eye muscle surgery. The other issue is will it work. If the brain decided to shut off the input from that eye(amblyopia), the ability to regain that lost input diminishes with time. If too long has passed, the surgery would be cosmetic.Once the brain turned the camera off -too late.