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Can I live a normal life with toxic shame?

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Dr. Pamela Pappas
Psychiatry
2 doctors agree

In brief: Letting go of shame

All humans who care about connection to others, experience shame from time to time.
This means most of us know what it's like to feel we're not worthy of love or belonging (shame), even if we don't want to admit it. What makes it "toxic" is that when we keep it secret, the more it controls our lives. Sharing our "shame" stories with trusted others, dissipates it & frees us from need to be perfect.

In brief: Letting go of shame

All humans who care about connection to others, experience shame from time to time.
This means most of us know what it's like to feel we're not worthy of love or belonging (shame), even if we don't want to admit it. What makes it "toxic" is that when we keep it secret, the more it controls our lives. Sharing our "shame" stories with trusted others, dissipates it & frees us from need to be perfect.
Dr. Pamela Pappas
Dr. Pamela Pappas
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Dr. Barbara A Majeroni
Family Medicine
1 doctor agrees

In brief: Get treated

A good therapist can help you deal with the shame.
It will take a long time, but it will be worth the effort.

In brief: Get treated

A good therapist can help you deal with the shame.
It will take a long time, but it will be worth the effort.
Dr. Barbara A Majeroni
Dr. Barbara A Majeroni
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Dr. Andrew Berry
Clinical Psychology

In brief: Shame

Shame is just about the darkest emotion people can face.
It presupposes that there's an audience to our alleged wrongdoings, and that devastating judgement will be passed. Something to remember is that everyone has something they feel ashamed about; it's inescapable. Find a reputable psychotherapist to speak with. Getting it off one's chest in a safe, nonjudgmental place is the first step.

In brief: Shame

Shame is just about the darkest emotion people can face.
It presupposes that there's an audience to our alleged wrongdoings, and that devastating judgement will be passed. Something to remember is that everyone has something they feel ashamed about; it's inescapable. Find a reputable psychotherapist to speak with. Getting it off one's chest in a safe, nonjudgmental place is the first step.
Dr. Andrew Berry
Dr. Andrew Berry
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