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Is it normal to have an aa sponsor of the opposite sex?
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Dr. Alan Wartenberg
Addiction Medicine
1 doctor agrees
In brief: Not advised
There are no "rules" about this, and aa is a voluntary organization where individual groups really decide what they want to see in their own group.
In general, one wants to avoid "13'th stepping, " which is sexual activity with other group members, and particularly a sponsor. Such relationships can be very damaging to the individual and their sobriety. In gay persons, opposite sex sponsors may work.

In brief: Not advised
There are no "rules" about this, and aa is a voluntary organization where individual groups really decide what they want to see in their own group.
In general, one wants to avoid "13'th stepping, " which is sexual activity with other group members, and particularly a sponsor. Such relationships can be very damaging to the individual and their sobriety. In gay persons, opposite sex sponsors may work.
Dr. Alan Wartenberg
Dr. Alan Wartenberg
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Dr. Samuel Bayles
i'd strongly recommend a same sex sponsor.
1 doctor agrees
In brief: It's irrelevant;
Whether your sponsor is the same or opposite sex, or if the sponsor's sex changes halfway through your recovery, makes zero difference.
You both have the same relationship with alcohol - you've both had enough. That's all that matters.

In brief: It's irrelevant;
Whether your sponsor is the same or opposite sex, or if the sponsor's sex changes halfway through your recovery, makes zero difference.
You both have the same relationship with alcohol - you've both had enough. That's all that matters.
Dr. Anatoly Belilovsky
Dr. Anatoly Belilovsky
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Dr. Heidi Fowler
Psychiatry
In brief: Intimacy
I agree w dr. Wartenburg.
The relationship w a sponsor is by definition - emotionally intimate. Allowing for emotional intimacy means letting down one's guard & being vulnerable. This is the perfect setting for sexual/ romantic feelings to grow (depending on gender preference). When the relationship w a sponsor moves in that direction - it complicates the process & isn't helpful for sobriety.

In brief: Intimacy
I agree w dr. Wartenburg.
The relationship w a sponsor is by definition - emotionally intimate. Allowing for emotional intimacy means letting down one's guard & being vulnerable. This is the perfect setting for sexual/ romantic feelings to grow (depending on gender preference). When the relationship w a sponsor moves in that direction - it complicates the process & isn't helpful for sobriety.
Dr. Heidi Fowler
Dr. Heidi Fowler
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