How do you conquer the depression caused by being a family member of a stroke victim?

Treatment. If you are depressed by a family member's stroke you could attend a support group for family members of stroke victims. Check your local hospital or rehabilitation hospital to see when the group meets. If the feelings of depression still persist, contact your physician to discuss options including counseling or medications.
Counseling. Best is to share your burdens with someone else, not the stroke victim. Psychologists and social workers can be very helpful. Respite care is beneficial in giving you a break from caretaking. Medication may be useful too.