Labor. When you see your obstetrician next time frankly discuss his/ her approach. Ask permission to speak with former patients establish your comfort zone. Remember, your obstetrician is interested in good outcome as you are. You should be comfortable with you doctor, if you are not seek another.
No. You should definitely have this discussion with your doctors. If you have no medical problems and have a normal pregnancy and expect normal, spontaneous labor then there are very few things your doctors may insist on. For example they may want to monitor the baby during labor periodically. If you want an epidural then you will need to have an IV placed and have the baby monitored all the time.