Try alternative... Not sure where you are in divorce process, or reason you want to avoid court. Alternative dispute resolution includes mediation, collaborative law, to settle most issues out of/before court, if both parties agree. Divorces settled thru mediation and collaboration are much more likely to result in both people feeling ok about the process and comfortable with results. Good resource: afccnet.Org.
Court. Mediation might help. Consult a divorce attorney.