I have pruritus ani and I need to find a homemade cure because I don't want to tell anyone.?

Multifactorial. Causes include excessive hygiene, pinworms, diet, anal leakage, hemorrhoids. Try avoiding soap and washcloth on anal area. Only warm water and your hand to cleanse in the shower. Avoid medicated wipes, just use soft toilet paper and wipe as little as possible. Avoid ingesting coffee, tea, soda, beer or citrus.