I am terrified about starting remicade (infliximab) because of the side effects, has anyone had good outcome?

Many people have. This drug is used long-term and has been very effective. We are always aware the side effects and we try to minimize them. We have to look at the risk of illness such as rheumatoid arthritis versus the benefit versus the risk of the medication. I will suggest let's try a short 3 to 6 months see how you do and then you decide if it's worth it. This will give you a short-term experience decide if you're willing to take the risks.