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How can a couple cope with infidelity?
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Dr. Ana Adelstein
Clinical Psychology
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In brief: Love & Betrayal
You might both want to check out dr. John amodeo's book "love & betrayal: broken trust in intimate relationships.
" i've found this one of the most thoughtful explorations of the concept of betrayal. Also, considering how difficult it can be to heal the wounds of infidelity, i'd suggest finding a skilled couples' therapist to help get to the heart of matters. Get referrals for trusted ones.

In brief: Love & Betrayal
You might both want to check out dr. John amodeo's book "love & betrayal: broken trust in intimate relationships.
" i've found this one of the most thoughtful explorations of the concept of betrayal. Also, considering how difficult it can be to heal the wounds of infidelity, i'd suggest finding a skilled couples' therapist to help get to the heart of matters. Get referrals for trusted ones.
Dr. Ana Adelstein
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Dr. Sherry Broadwell
Clinical Psychology
In brief: Another approach
Also recommend the book, After the Affair by Janis Abrahms Springs, PhD.
Attachment based Emotionaly Focused Couples therapy is particularly effective in helping couples move past infidelity as cheating is often not the cause of the problem, but more a symptom of disconnection. You can find a therapist here: http://www.iceeft.com/. Difficult, but certainly possible to overcome. Wish you the best.

In brief: Another approach
Also recommend the book, After the Affair by Janis Abrahms Springs, PhD.
Attachment based Emotionaly Focused Couples therapy is particularly effective in helping couples move past infidelity as cheating is often not the cause of the problem, but more a symptom of disconnection. You can find a therapist here: http://www.iceeft.com/. Difficult, but certainly possible to overcome. Wish you the best.
Dr. Sherry Broadwell
Dr. Sherry Broadwell
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Dr. Emily Massey
Clinical Psychology
In brief: Gottman Method
The book "not just friends" by shirley glass is a must read.
Also, keep in mind that most infidelity is a symptom of problems that existed in the marriage prior to the onset of the affair. That said, you should know that most couples survive and grow stronger following an affair. Most importantly, see a gottman method couples therapist to repair the ongoing troubles in your relationship.

In brief: Gottman Method
The book "not just friends" by shirley glass is a must read.
Also, keep in mind that most infidelity is a symptom of problems that existed in the marriage prior to the onset of the affair. That said, you should know that most couples survive and grow stronger following an affair. Most importantly, see a gottman method couples therapist to repair the ongoing troubles in your relationship.
Dr. Emily Massey
Dr. Emily Massey
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