14 doctors weighed in:

Advice for dealing with difficult family relationships over the holidays?

14 doctors weighed in
Dr. Barbara Lavi
Clinical Psychology
5 doctors agree

In brief: Holidays can be

challenging. Expectations R high and disappointments R common.
If U have problematic relationships w' family members, plan shorter visits, meet a friend 4 coffee or lunch over the holiday vacation, take walks on your own, play w' the kids 2 avoid adult tensions, help w' cooking or clean up, avoid alcohol which lowers inhibitions and could lead 2 saying or doing things U may regret later.

In brief: Holidays can be

challenging. Expectations R high and disappointments R common.
If U have problematic relationships w' family members, plan shorter visits, meet a friend 4 coffee or lunch over the holiday vacation, take walks on your own, play w' the kids 2 avoid adult tensions, help w' cooking or clean up, avoid alcohol which lowers inhibitions and could lead 2 saying or doing things U may regret later.
Dr. Barbara Lavi
Dr. Barbara Lavi
Thank
Dr. Miroslava Fox
Clinical Psychology
4 doctors agree

In brief: See below

Hard to answer without knowing any specifics.
However, do you need to attend family function, for example? If you need to be with with the family, remember, you cannot change your family, but you can only change how your reactions and ways you deal with your family. Good luck!

In brief: See below

Hard to answer without knowing any specifics.
However, do you need to attend family function, for example? If you need to be with with the family, remember, you cannot change your family, but you can only change how your reactions and ways you deal with your family. Good luck!
Dr. Miroslava Fox
Dr. Miroslava Fox
Thank
2 comments
Dr. Donald Haupt
From time to time, when you're feeling anxious with your family, mentally take a step back and imagine you are an anthropologist studying an exotic tribe. Just observe their "odd" habits but stay as uninvolved as you can. Do this for a few minutes at a time, and you will both relax AND learn something about your family
Dr. Joanna Oestmann
So true our perceptions and how we view a family event helps us change how we react. You might consider a game plan too such as a time limited visit, what to do if you begin to get anxious, and how to find & see a positive attribute in every family member.
Dr. Janice Seward
Clinical Psychology
1 doctor agrees

In brief: Difficult families

Although the holidays have passed, there are many times we need to deal with difficult family members.
Sometimes the solution is to spend as little time as possible. But when that is not possible, learning to know your 'triggers' - the themes that repeatedly cause you to react - can be really helpful in avoiding those topics. Also, learning to control your reactions through anti-stress methods...

In brief: Difficult families

Although the holidays have passed, there are many times we need to deal with difficult family members.
Sometimes the solution is to spend as little time as possible. But when that is not possible, learning to know your 'triggers' - the themes that repeatedly cause you to react - can be really helpful in avoiding those topics. Also, learning to control your reactions through anti-stress methods...
Dr. Janice Seward
Dr. Janice Seward
Thank
Get help from a real doctor now
Dr. Cindy Juster
Board Certified, Pediatrics
32 years in practice
2M people helped
Continue
108,000 doctors available
Read more answers from doctors