What are some specific little things I can do for my partner to get her to have sex?

Cherish your partner. Cherish your partner by complimenting him/her on the things they do "right". Help with household tasks and be willing to compromise on "things that don't matter in the long rum" show respect in your language to one another to not demean the person when upset. Show affection during the day by touch, words, or deeds. Eliminate electronic intrusion into the bedroom at night.