Help needed fast. We need advice on how to get along with our boomerang after 5 years of empty nest.?

Goals and tolerance. As parents, first you need to have agreement among yourselves on the goals of this new venture and what you can tolerate. Translating love into action that benefits your adult children can be more challenging than your previous child raising tasks. It can help to use a good family therapist / child psychiatrist. Setting limits and providing guidance in a supportive and instructive way is an art.