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Having sex should be pleasing, why can't I enjoy sex?

7 doctors weighed in
Dr. Susan Lurie
Family Medicine
5 doctors agree

In brief: Multiple reasons

There are many possible reasons why sex may not be enjoyable.
Most commonly psychological factors play a big role, as in feelings of anger or resentment towards the partner. There may be physical reasons as well, such as pain with intercourse. This can stem from a variety of causes as well. It's best to see your doctor to discuss your particular case after a thorough exam.

In brief: Multiple reasons

There are many possible reasons why sex may not be enjoyable.
Most commonly psychological factors play a big role, as in feelings of anger or resentment towards the partner. There may be physical reasons as well, such as pain with intercourse. This can stem from a variety of causes as well. It's best to see your doctor to discuss your particular case after a thorough exam.
Dr. Susan Lurie
Dr. Susan Lurie
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Dr. Alvin Lin
Internal Medicine - Geriatrics
2 doctors agree

In brief: Sex should feel good

Sex should be enjoyable.
If it's not pleasing, then something's not right. If this is only 2nd attempt, more likely you & your partner aren't ready since your partner should take his/her time to make sure you're lubricated enough so that sex is fun, not painful. Or perhaps guilt from your religious & cultural background is weighing on you. Ps don't forget to make him wear a condom to prevent stds.

In brief: Sex should feel good

Sex should be enjoyable.
If it's not pleasing, then something's not right. If this is only 2nd attempt, more likely you & your partner aren't ready since your partner should take his/her time to make sure you're lubricated enough so that sex is fun, not painful. Or perhaps guilt from your religious & cultural background is weighing on you. Ps don't forget to make him wear a condom to prevent stds.
Dr. Alvin Lin
Dr. Alvin Lin
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Dr. Christopher Guzik
Family Medicine
1 doctor agrees

In brief: Vaginal spasm

Although a woman can easily diagnose her vaginismus, medical evaluation is recommended .
Diagnosing vaginismus is quite simple. It requires identifying an inability, or great difficulty, with one or more of the following : finger, tampon, applicator, intercourse or gyn examination.

In brief: Vaginal spasm

Although a woman can easily diagnose her vaginismus, medical evaluation is recommended .
Diagnosing vaginismus is quite simple. It requires identifying an inability, or great difficulty, with one or more of the following : finger, tampon, applicator, intercourse or gyn examination.
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