Asked a doc a? She said that they test for herpes when your. Pregnant. Not true. They only test if they see an active breakout. So no

Correct. Testing for herpes during pregnancy is NOT a standard requirement set forth by the American College of Ob-Gyns. They may test you if you have an outbreak.
Not clear. Some docs may check for herpes in certain situations, some may not. So ask your doctor what she means. If we wanted to hurt/lie to people for a living we all were smart enough to go to law school or be bankers (Joke!-sort of)