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Should a woman lie to avoid making her male partner feel shame about sexual performance?

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In brief: No

Sex is a primal form of communication.
Lying will come back to haunt you in the worst way. If the relationship is important talk about it , preferably outside of the bedroom.

In brief: No

Sex is a primal form of communication.
Lying will come back to haunt you in the worst way. If the relationship is important talk about it , preferably outside of the bedroom.
Dr. Andrew McCullough
Dr. Andrew McCullough
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Dr. Andrew Berry
Clinical Psychology

In brief: Shame

Can the woman deal with living with what amounts to a lie? Oftentimes, people far wiser than I believe that living a lie is worse than telling one.
Be honest with him, communicate more fully, verbalize feelings of shame and any others and do NOT be shy about seeking professional help It's out there, believe me.

In brief: Shame

Can the woman deal with living with what amounts to a lie? Oftentimes, people far wiser than I believe that living a lie is worse than telling one.
Be honest with him, communicate more fully, verbalize feelings of shame and any others and do NOT be shy about seeking professional help It's out there, believe me.
Dr. Andrew Berry
Dr. Andrew Berry
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Dr. Brian Lynch
Family Medicine

In brief: Sex

Excellent question.
We always want to avoid inducing shame and humiliation. Always. But i said "avoid"so we can't always do it. Shame , not humiliation , is a necessary part of learning. The object is not shame but to learn , that takes skill and trust and a sense of safety. Good communication about these matters means that you can communicate about many other matters. Brianlynchmd.Com.

In brief: Sex

Excellent question.
We always want to avoid inducing shame and humiliation. Always. But i said "avoid"so we can't always do it. Shame , not humiliation , is a necessary part of learning. The object is not shame but to learn , that takes skill and trust and a sense of safety. Good communication about these matters means that you can communicate about many other matters. Brianlynchmd.Com.
Dr. Brian Lynch
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Dr. Leto Quarles
Family Medicine

In brief: Not if relationship

Gender & sex are not the issue; communication is.
If your partner is doing something you don't like, or not doing something you want, how can things ever improve if you don't let them know? Key, especially when talking about sexual performance, is to be honest and supportive: compliment what you do enjoy, encourage what you want more of, & suggest alternatives when something isn't working for you.

In brief: Not if relationship

Gender & sex are not the issue; communication is.
If your partner is doing something you don't like, or not doing something you want, how can things ever improve if you don't let them know? Key, especially when talking about sexual performance, is to be honest and supportive: compliment what you do enjoy, encourage what you want more of, & suggest alternatives when something isn't working for you.
Dr. Leto Quarles
Dr. Leto Quarles
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