Can't touch anything without washing my hands. Scared I'm gonna get genital herpes because mother has cold sore and touches objects and clothes. Help?

Fear or Fact? Sounds like this distressing thought is getting stuck in your head & taking over your life. It's an obsession- one, BTW, that's very common among ppl w/ OCD. Fact: all of us encounter stuff that *may* make us sick. Our immune systems aren't always prepared but they're designed 2 adapt. Learn 2 face & overcome ur fears so they don't rule your life. Suggest reading abt obsessns. .
Go to therapist. Paranoia, untreated anxiety, and having fantasies that aren't based in any reality, would seem to qualify you for some work with a good mental health specialist.