Am anxius and looking for any kind of answer from my kid for financial assistance for college, but he wont take time to check. Any ideas?

It's their life. Ssems like your child is not ready for college. They need to learn to put forth some effort. You can help, but don't do it for them unless they work hard at it.! the military might not be a\ bad option, and certainly community colleges are a less expensive alternative to your states "flagship" schools or private institutions.