I need advice on how to sort out life as parent of a toddler?

3 rules. 1. Never tell him to do something like "eat your dinner" or anything that he can control himself. 2. If you tell him to do something e.g. Put your toys away because I want to set the table, give him a reason and time to do it. 3 if you have threatened a punishment (or something good) never go back on your word. Make sure that you can enforce it. Set precept and example.