I have HPV and was just told by my that I have an ulcer on my cervix and had a swollen labia minora which is fine now. They think its HSV no sex?

HPV and HSV. You should start having protected sex and make certain that you have been adequately tested for all other stds, particularly syphilis, hiv, gonorrhea, chlamydia. You also need to follow up on the status of the cervical changes and strongly consider receiving the hpv vaccine. Good luck.