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How often should I answer the same question asked over and over by loved one with dementia?
23 doctors weighed in

Dr. Alvin Lin
Internal Medicine - Geriatrics
15 doctors agree
In brief: It Depends On You
Answering the same question over & over & over again requires lots of patience and love.
If you find yourself becoming frustrated, irritated, impatient, etc, it's time to do something else. We suggest redirection & distraction. With that said, there's no reason to put yourself in that situation. As soon as you realize the same question is being asked, start redirecting & distracting your loved one.

In brief: It Depends On You
Answering the same question over & over & over again requires lots of patience and love.
If you find yourself becoming frustrated, irritated, impatient, etc, it's time to do something else. We suggest redirection & distraction. With that said, there's no reason to put yourself in that situation. As soon as you realize the same question is being asked, start redirecting & distracting your loved one.
Dr. Alvin Lin
Dr. Alvin Lin
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Dr. Claude Sassoon
Clinical Psychology
6 doctors agree
In brief: Offer your love
As many times as you care and love her. Even though the person may not remember or not even understand your answer, she may be able to feel the patience, tenderness, love and care you express.
At that moment it can be for her like the only drop of water that falls in a very hot desert.

In brief: Offer your love
As many times as you care and love her. Even though the person may not remember or not even understand your answer, she may be able to feel the patience, tenderness, love and care you express.
At that moment it can be for her like the only drop of water that falls in a very hot desert.
Dr. Claude Sassoon
Dr. Claude Sassoon
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Dr. Robert Woods
Psychiatry
6 doctors agree
In brief: Within The Limits
One should answer the same question of a demented patient as often as possible given that there is no harm. If you find yourself or see your loved one becoming angry, frustrated, anxious or sad you have reached the limit.
You need to change your approach. Change the subject, change the venue, distract the patient. The limit is highly variable so no numeric value can be assigned to how often.

In brief: Within The Limits
One should answer the same question of a demented patient as often as possible given that there is no harm. If you find yourself or see your loved one becoming angry, frustrated, anxious or sad you have reached the limit.
You need to change your approach. Change the subject, change the venue, distract the patient. The limit is highly variable so no numeric value can be assigned to how often.
Dr. Robert Woods
Dr. Robert Woods
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Dr. Maureen Nash
Psychiatry - Geriatric
1 doctor agrees
In brief: Inability to form
memories is the hallmark of Alzheimers.
So for the person with dementia it is the first time they have asked the question even if it is the 100th time you have heard it. If you find you are losing patience, try distraction, getting busy doing an activity or start asking questions yourself. Consider getting respite assistance.

In brief: Inability to form
memories is the hallmark of Alzheimers.
So for the person with dementia it is the first time they have asked the question even if it is the 100th time you have heard it. If you find you are losing patience, try distraction, getting busy doing an activity or start asking questions yourself. Consider getting respite assistance.
Dr. Maureen Nash
Dr. Maureen Nash
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