Oh boy, i think vbacs at home are dangerous.
If your uterus
ruptured there would be little chance to get to a hospital fast enough to save your baby. But, you could probably find a midwife through your state's midwives
association, or google. Wish i had room to write more here. A hospital cannot force you to have a c/s, even if their "policy" is to do no vbacs. Not that they would be nice....