Mother-in-law with borderline personality disorder. Is there any hope for me?

Pray & read. Walking on eggshells is a book 4 people living with borderlines.
Borderline. Not sure if u r worried about her kids & whether they will inherit the disorder. Best to discuss with her son/daughter what u r worried about based on what u have seen, or simply to put it aside & focus on your partner.
Compassion. As the dalai lama says: 'say 'compassion', say 'compassion', always say 'compassion' ".
Borderline . The hardest thing to maintain with borderline personality disorder are interpersonal boundaries. Boundary violations often occur with people struggling with this disorder, in this case mother-in-law, and you're going to have to work on those boundary issues first and foremost, most notably in terms of safeguarding against being emotionally invaded or manipulated by that person.

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Can there be any kind of hope for people with borderline personality disorder?

DBT. Change for anyone requires committment. Dialetical behavioral therapy is very helpful for people with a borderline personality disorder. The major issues is whether you are willing to stick with a treatment program. Read more...
DBT. Dbt, or dialetic behavioral therapy, formulated and developed by marsha linehan, pH.D. Is currently though of as being very effective. Just about the biggest goal of this kind of therapy for this kind of disorder is to maintain boundaries. Read more...

Can a mother w/ borderline personality disorder be caring & truly mean it and share positive times and experiences with her kids?

Yes and why not. Yes she can share positive times and experiences with her kids BPD patients often have other disorders like Depression.Bipolar Disorder,Alnxiety,Eating Disorders and Substance Abuse. The symptoms of BPD are ikely to hinder the ability of a mother to parent effectively,thereby negatively affecting the social and emotional development of a child. Positive times&experiences are good for both&FAMILY. Read more...
Yes of course. Yes of course. However, there may be times where there is inconsistent behavior in people who have been diagnosed with borderline personality. Psychotherapy can be very helpful with this condition. Read more...
Borderline personali. It could happen but should be under care of mental health care worker. Read more...
Most people who have. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) suffer from: problems regulating emotions and thoughts, impulsive/reckless behavior, and unstable relationships. However they are capable of being very loving and having positive experiences. Many require skilled evaluation, medication and psychotherapy to achieve stabilization, emotional regulation and more stable relationships. Best regards. Read more...

I'm currently suffering with anxiety disorder and borderline personality disorder. Is there any medication I can take for this&how do I access it?

Need a professional . Dear Andrea Yes, there are treatments to help with anxiety disorder which can dramatically improve quality of life. Depending where you are, your GP/ Family doctor should be your first port of call. Hope that helps. Read more...

What is a borderline personality disorder? Is it hard to explain?

Unstable Pattern. Borderline personality disorder (bpd) is a bit hard to explain, but it can be thought of this way. It's a lifelong pattern of instability in personal behavior, relationships, mood and self image. Those with bpd have a great fear of being abandoned, may regard others as all good or all bad, may have rapid mood swings , and repeated suicide attempts or other self-harming acts and usually feel empty. Read more...
Borderline Personali. Pervasive pattern of unstable interpersonal relationships, affective distress, marked impulsivity, & unstable self-image. Read more...
Borderline. Intense fear of abandonment, being manipulative, impulsivity, a tendency to think of people and things in all good or all bad terms, self mutilating behaviors, drug and alcohol abuse, sexual impulsivity, a profoundly disturb sense of self, and extreme emotional volatility. Read more...

Can you please explain why borderline personality disorder is an "infantile" illness?

Never heard that... But, if you think about it - it might be that some of the dysfunctional family of origin events that disrupt healthy personality development happen during your very early life. Poor or inconsistent care can destroy trust and leave you with huge needs for others and equally huge mistrust of others. It might mean a bpd person acts immaturely, and some might, but not like an infant. Be well! Read more...
Borderline PD. Borderline pd isn't just an "infantile" illness. In fact the developmental period most implicated in this disorder is separation-individuation -- around 18-36 months of age. For none of us is it "a breeze, "and we all struggle to an extent. But bpd gets less support from parents during this time than most do, and there can be earlier development issues also. We all try to get what we need. Read more...

I have borderline personality disorder. Is it ok to just avoid close relationships? To prevent hurting both myself and other people?

Temporarily. It will be hard to avoid all close relationships for the remainder of your life. Getting therapy as to how to effectively manage close relationships and really discuss and be honest about new relationships helps. Developing plans to better manage relationships and relationship triggers is also helpful. Read more...

How long does it take to diagnose someone with bipolar disorder &/or borderline personality disorder? R these mental illnesses or personality traits?

Variable. It may take several sessions of history-gathering and observing to make diagnoses of this type -- but symptoms & mental status signs may be clear from the start. Borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder are both mental illnesses, not just personality traits. Both may be present in the same person. Borderline pd often has more intense symptoms in intimate relationships than others. Read more...
It depends. Some studies have shown it can take up to ten years on average to diagnose bipolar disorder when the patient keeps coming in with depression. While depressed they don't remember the highs. Using a scale called the mdq helps. So does getting history from relatives. This is. A mental illness. I try to avoid diagnosing a personality disorder until the mood is level. A borderline pd is also a mental illness, but i will not diagnosis unless it is very clearly not related to the bipolar disorder per se. When it appears in a partial form we simply list borderline traits. I hope this answers your question for you. Read more...
See a psychologist. You must be at least 18 years of age with an established pattern of personality traits. The signs and symptoms of bpd can be very similar to other psychiatric disorders. Find a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist who specializes in personality disorders for a diagnosis. Many can tell within a session or two. Bipolar disorder is a primary mental illness and can also be DX by a mental health prof. Read more...
Borderline. Not quickly. BPD isintense fear of abandonment, being manipulative, impulsivity, a tendency to think of people and things in all good or all bad terms, self mutilating behaviors, drug and alcohol abuse, sexual impulsivity, a profoundly disturb sense of self, and extreme emotional volatility. Bipolar disorder is characterized by extreme mood swings from deep depression to the stratosphere of mania. Read more...

Can you tell me about borderline personality disorder?

Mismatch. Think of any personality disorder as the mismatch between ideal coping skills needed to deal with adulthood stress and coping skills developed as a child to deal with stress in general. Usually occurs due to unusual coping skills honed to survive difficult childhood conditions. Borderline is one such disorder. Foundation of recovery (which is possible) is long-term therapy. Hope this helps. Read more...