1/3+ of all my body hair gets ingrown. I even get abscesses! What gives? I've tried so many things! It hurts/is embarrassing! Is my skin not normal?

Laser hair removal. It's unfortunate and infections are definitely a problem. See if you can convince your insurance to pay for laser hair removal. If you've had documented severe abscesses, they might be more apt to cover it. Otherwise, it's usually considered a cosmetic procedure. It often helps in chronic cases like yours.